What are your favorite conversations you have with your girlfriends when you meet for lunch or dinner? The latest episode from the TV show you watch together? The long list of updates you want to do on your house after watching Fixer Upper? Your kids and their schedules/activities? Your husband or the husband you want?
None of these conversations are wrong or bad but when was the last time your friends talked about something meaningful that took you below the surface?
Several years go, my friend Amy started a tradition for our monthly friends dinner. At the time, all seven of us singles gathered to celebrate our birthdays at each one’s favorite restaurant! We got dressed up, feeling amazing about our outfits of choice, ate delicious food, and talked about all sorts of things until it was time to do the eagerly anticipated “Birthday Questions.” I remember the first time we asked these questions of the evening’s honoree. I loved hearing my friend reflect on the previous year and also share some things she was looking forward to for her next, new year of life. When we said our goodbyes, I drove home with anticipation for when it was my turn.
When my birthday month arrived, one of the first questions my friend, Maggie, asked me was, “What was your favorite outfit from the last year?” I loved this question as we were all in a season with jobs that “required” us to dress up. Putting outfits together was a fun way of expressing my creativity. It was a simple question, but it provided a fun way to reflect on the year.
Another question was, “Share 3 attributes of the Lord that you saw in your life this past year.” Together, as a group of single friends, we had years of waiting, wondering, questioning, and lots of practice putting our hope in the Lord. So this question was always asked. Each time it proved to be a particularly wonderful question as we each described how the Lord was GOOD in all circumstances.
So, since the summer is here and there is a little more room for fun with friends, we invite you to try some of these questions. Each week we will post a new question on our blog. Share these with friends around lunch or poolside. At the gym. Wherever you’re getting together. If you and your friends are participating in our Summer Blog Club, these would be great icebreakers to kick off each weekly gathering.
And join us here too! We want to grow our friendship with you also. Comment below with your answer. We’d love to hear from you!
Question of the Week: What are three surprises from the last year?