One of my great faults, which shows up regularly in our marriage, is my first-born perfectionism turned on my husband as ‘helping’. Sometimes it happens when he’s telling a story and doesn’t get the details right as I remember them and I correct him. (btw, I do work hard not to correct publicly.) Other times […]
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Today’s post is a question compiled from several I have been asked over the years. It is addressed in my book, Letters to My Daughters which is why I replied, “Dear daughters.” It’s a topic that books have been written about, but here I’m sharing a few things I learned that helped me in this […]
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Dear Barbara: I got into a fight with my husband last night because I feel he does not appreciate all that I do and gives no help at all with our daughter, while I am expecting a second child. Today I’m wondering if I’m looking for something from him that he can’t give. Or […]
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Stress is normal in all marriages in every season, but it has been elevated beyond the ordinary for many marriages in these days of pandemic. Communication keeps relationships running smoothly like oil in a car engine reduces friction, but so often our conversations remain factual, superficial. We need help knowing how to go deep. […]
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All six of our children had adjustments and challenges with their in-laws. Everyone does. We did too. Two daughters had extra challenges setting boundaries with their in-laws. Living in the same city brought expectations for dinners, family gatherings, and baby-sitting privileges that hadn’t been declared in advance of the marriage. Whether living close or […]
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