Heart Identity Matters

By Barbara Rainey | July 12, 2021 | 28 Comments

Opening an old journal I read some words I had written many years before: “I really wanted to go to the meetings this morning, but here I am in our apartment being a mother. Mothering doesn’t stop. Children’s needs don’t stop. Sick kids can’t be delegated. So once again I’m isolated and he, my husband, […]

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Dear Barbara: Do Second Marriages Matter?

By Barbara Rainey | June 14, 2021 | 23 Comments

Dear Barbara: Do second marriages matter? You talk so much about staying together and making marriage work. What if my first marriage didn’t and now I’m trying again? Can I honor God with a new marriage? I appreciate the honest question. When we added an official ministry to stepfamilies several years ago at FamilyLife, we […]

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“Can You Fix My Spouse?” (And Why That Prayer Doesn’t Work)

By Jodie Berndt | June 7, 2021 | 1 Comment

  When Jodie Berndt asked if I would consider endorsing her new book, Praying the Scriptures for Your Life, I gladly agreed. Like Jodie, I appreciate the power of prayer—particularly as it shapes our friendships, our parenting, and our marriages. One of the things I love about Jodie’s writing is her honesty. She doesn’t hold […]

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When Following is Dangerous: Refusing Bad Marital Dance Steps

By Barbara Rainey | April 26, 2021 | 0 Comments

Dear Barbara: What am I supposed to do when my husband is leading me into territory that I don’t think is healthy or holy? And he won’t listen?   Dear Daughters of Eve: A few years ago Dennis and I signed up for dance lessons. If you had been there to watch, you would have […]

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Why Easter Matters to Marriage

By Barbara Rainey | February 22, 2021 | 31 Comments

One of my great faults, which shows up regularly in our marriage, is my first-born perfectionism turned on my husband as “helping.” Sometimes it happens when he’s telling a story and doesn’t get the details right as I remember them and I correct him. (By the way, I do work hard not to correct publicly.) Other […]

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